I completed the 13 months of bereavement counseling that I began a month or so after my father’s death. These deaths are/have been painful, but over time, these losses can be coped with. Twenty-three months and fourteen close relatives have died of illness or frailties of aging.
What disturbs me most is the perception I have of an increase in hopelessness around me and in the larger world. The growing realization that not all of the current problems can be dealt with at all. In too many instances, there are no longer probable, known paths to survivable resolution. Some situations, having possible long-term solutions, see fewer possibilities for interim goals moving toward a future.
As a result, I find myself feeling grief in smaller, local situations that I cannot address in any meaningful way. I do not like problems that cannot be solved.
- 26 October 2016, Aunt Dorothy, Mother’s sister (98 yrs)
- 15 November 2016, Mother (94 yrs)
- 26 February 2017, Dad (100 yrs)
- 17 May 2017, Uncle Wayne, Dad’s brother (77 yrs)
- 20 July 2017, Uncle Jim, Mother’s brother-in-law (93 yrs)
- 31 July 2017, Uncle Albert, Dad’s brother (95 yrs)
- 5 September 2017, Aunt Marion, Dad’s sister (88 yrs)
- 30 October 2017, Aunt Esther, Dad’s sister (82 years)
- 6 December 2017, Nora Kathleen, Aunt Marion’s daughter (60 years)
- 9 December 2017, Don S., Al’s uncle (91 years)
- 20 April 2018, Norma, Al’s aunt (100 years)
- 16 May 2018, Jean, 1st cousin once removed (90 years)
- 21 May 2018, Mark, a brother of my youngest brother’s wife
- 11 September 2018, Pat S., Al’s last living aunt died at 3:00 this morning. (89 years)
- An in-law, who is terminally ill, entered hospice care at the beginning of summer.
I want to record other significant family deaths in the recent past.
- My uncle Jesse died at age 83 on 4 November 2003 (b. 1 August 1920).
- My sister Bryce died at age 56 on 30 September 2014.
- My mother-in-law Grace died at age 93 on 18 July 2012.